3) Flexibility and Compound Interest
(this one is a long one, brace for it, I get soppy at the end)
We might start off with one learning program and then change to another, we might use no set learning system, it might change from week to week, or we might pick a book and stick with it till the end. What I need from you as the Parent is to be fully supportive of whatever your child needs at whatever point they're at in their learning. Sometimes it will feel like it just gets harder and harder, no journey is linear no matter how wonderful the results.
(think childbirth, although hopefully this will be less painful lol)
Your patience and dedication to the long-term effects of music education is all I'm asking for. Please be ready to make your child feel successful at every step of the progress, not expecting more than they are capable of at that moment in time. And be patient with yourself as a parent as well! The more outside interests you have the harder your life gets, the busier your schedule gets, and the more pressure you feel to make sure you're making the best use of your time. I absolutely understand and wish you could see what I see when I see people center music in their family life. I promise it will be worth it. I remember being at the music store years ago listening to a mother bemoan the fact that her teenage daughter didn't want to take lessons anymore, that she didn't show any interest in orchestra, or performing at all. She said:
"The only times she ever gets it out to play is when she's in a mood or really upset."
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THAT is the goal, this is what you're working for. Not just the skill they learn, not how fancy they look playing, not only the community they will have, not just the bonding as a family learning music together. All those things are amazing, but the compound interest that builds, that's special. The magical connection to something more than us, the ability to have something to express things words can't, to have it be part of you and also something you can also never quite grasp at the same time. That's what your effort and time is building.
You make it so that when your child has something happen that you can't help with instantly, or that they don't know how to deal with, you've already built the intrinsic support in their mind and body. They have their music, they have the intuitive reliance and realistically a FABULOUS coping mechanism to help them deal with whatever life throws at them. All those hours you spent sitting in your music space at home together, breathing, stretching, singing, regulating, moving, talking, understanding, laughing, showing curiosity, playing... It all compounds into WHO they are as a person. HOW they will react when something triggers them, when they fail something, when they feel judged or alone, or when they're struggling with who they are and where they're going,
the Music is In Them...
So yeah, in my very biased perspective it's worth it all :)